Earlier this year, my Babushka died from Covid. She was the center of gravity for our entire family. Its very soul.
Babushka was both highly sensitive and fiercely tough. A good hug could make her cry. And yet she was strong as Soviet steel. Surviving war, illness, persecution. Nothing in this world frightened her except the thought of losing loved ones, living in a nursing home, and making too little food for a party.
Only the first fear ever materialized.
Like any good grandma, she constantly fed people. Not just her own grandkids. This was a woman who brought baked…
Here it is, my friends. The secret to dealing with our emotions in a healthy way:
Emotions are like children. You don’t want to let them drive the car, but you can’t lock them in the trunk, either.
I first heard this little nugget of wisdom in a yoga teacher training six years ago. According to the internet, which has never been wrong, the original author of the quote appears to be unknown. Let’s misattribute it to Albert Einstein like most other wise sayings.
As a society we are finally moving toward a point in our collective emotional development where…
You may have heard a version of this ancient proverb about the wise old farmer and his horse.
An old farmer had a single horse. It helped plow the field, sow the seeds, and transport the crops to the market. That horse was his livelihood. One day the horse ran away. His neighbors came over to express condolences. What rotten luck! How will you provide for your family now?
The old man was unfazed. “Good luck, bad luck. Who knows? It is what it is. My horse is gone.”
A few days later, the horse returned — with a herd…
What do Neo-hippie havens like Bali, Guatemala, and Sri Lanka have in common?
Sure, you can take a very scenic and affordable yoga class in all three, sandwiched between a cacao ceremony and a Tantra workshop. But that’s a surface-level similarity. I mean on a deeper, energetic level.
Over the last few years, I have spent much time in spiritual communities around the world, including the gorgeous trio listed above. I noticed something sobering:
It’s inner work, after all. No one is smiling during meditation. Super-potent, serious plant medicines like Ayahuasca and Bufo Alvarius (a psychedelic toad venom deemed 5…
Recently I realized that all throughout my life, people have been crying in my presence.
Not just close family and friends, but people I barely know. Strangers seated next to me on long flights. Tough guys who normally shove emotions down. And of course friends who are going through a tough time.
In fact, I can’t readily recall the last day when at least one person didn’t cry in front of me.
I am like a Tears Whisperer. But I don’t think I make people sad. I think I help them release whatever they’re ready to let go of.
In the last decade, Google searches for “ayahuasca” have quadrupled. And it’s no surprise since ancient plant medicine has found its way into modern culture.
Jim Carrey has tried it. So have many other celebrities and creative types. Ayahuasca ceremonies have starred in movies like Wanderlust and While We’re Young.
Chelsea Handler traveled to Peru to sit with the medicine — and film the whole experience for her Netflix show.
At least a dozen people I know personally have done it. I myself have been tempted over the last few years. …
Last summer my good friend set me up with a guy. As I got to know him, the crazy coincidences kept stacking up. Manhattan has 214 numbered streets. We had lived on the same exact one for years, two blocks apart. We took classes at the same yoga studio. Knew many of the same people.
We had circled around each other but never met. Until now.
There were oddly specific parallels in our childhoods and our family backgrounds. But the kicker for me was this: In college, I foolishly got a tattoo of a certain fruit, more or less on…
I was 100 feet underwater, and suddenly I couldn’t breathe.
The Pit, or El Pit, as it’s called here in Mexico, is one of the deepest cenotes (underwater caves) in the world. The main entrance is nature’s grand ballroom. One hundred twenty feet deep and wide enough to fit a jumbo jet.
On sunny days the light rays pierce the blue water all the way down to the bottom. The effect makes you feel like you’re in a dream. Today is such a day. El Pit is showing off.
The first half of my dive feels progressively more dreamlike the…
For five years I chased happiness around the world. The answer surprised me.
Here is the plot of most movies and books involving travel: Person’s life sucks. Person takes a long trip to somewhere exotic. Person’s life improves greatly. Person writes a bestseller about the adventure, it gets made into a movie, and the travel-yourself-happy plan attracts new converts.
This life improvement strategy was likely simmering in my subconscious when my landlord shoved a lease renewal form under the door of my tiny studio apartment in New York City.
I had felt vaguely unhappy and directionless for years, lying to…
I’m here to spill some of his spiritual secrets
When my partner was a young boy growing up in Montana, he started reading meditation books. For fun. His own family thought it was strange.
At 18 he began teaching meditation at a local college and has since taught around the world.
If our meditation streaks were people, his would be legally allowed to buy alcohol. Mine would be learning how to roll over on its tummy.
The point here is not that length matters. In fact, my partner freely admits he “felt like an idiot” when he finally realized the…